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January 16, 2012

Get Over Here Sparky- 5 Tips To Get Your Relationship Going

by Desi

It is a new year, which means new commitments,  new love…right?

Lucky for you there is already a special person in your life. But, what happens when dates become routine and the spark isn’t as sparky? Lucky for you, again, the spark can be reignited. Relationships usually hit a rough patch when:

  • you or your partner get too comfortable (I know you like my ripped up tight jeans honey, but these PJs are just SO comfy), or
  • things that you loved about them you hate (Your optimistic personality, its making me pessimistic), or
  • now you each are just bored with each other (Yes, the chicken crossed the road to get to the other side. Another joke, please.)

Before you go throw the PS3 game controller at them, check out these helpful tips to fire up your relationship-gone-humdrum.

1.)    Flirting

Flirting isn’t just for the relationship-challenged (AKA single people.)  While its known that you two are the old ball and chain, your partner may not feel the love all the time. Send cute messages to show that you are thinking of them. Something as simple as a good morning text or a compliment makes all the difference.

You: Babe, you look like a tall glass of water and I am thirssssstttyyy! Lol :-)

Your Honey: Oh yeah? You weren’t thirsty enough to clean those tall glasses that were in the sink this morning.

You: …. :\

When it comes to social gatherings, the worst thing you can do is be that couple that have become conjoined twins. Separate yourselves, steal some glances from across the room while talking to other people. Do not overkill on PDA, give yourselves something to look forward to when you head back home.

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2.)    Adventure Time

In your relationship, you two have a lot of adventures to be had and it shouldn’t be something that only happens in the beginning of your relationship. So, get off Netflix and go outside! Going to the park or having a spur-of-the-moment road trip.

Both of you can try picking up new hobbies. Take a couple of weeks to get used to your new hobby, and share it with each other. This can take you to another level with your partner. Forming new memories with your sweetheart and not reminiscing on the old ones is the best feeling.

Some of the best adventures happen when you don’t even expect it. One time my boyfriend and I were heading home when we drove by this bowling alley we past often, but this time we decided to go in and do go-kart racing! It was the best time because it was something that brought out our competitive sides. We made a game out of it and I kicked his ass! (He may have another story to tell though.)

Photo Credit: Cameron Productions

3.)    Playing “The Game”

Just because you’re in a relationship, doesn’t mean that you can’t play hard to get. Make your partner crave you by not always being in their face all the time. I know I’ve said this already, but I think you needed to hear it again. One thing my mom always told me (and admit I ignored often) was to not make yourself too available. Give a little mystery, make your partner miss you.

Remember that hot little number you wore on your first date? Pull that out from the crypt, or wear something new or something you know you can pull off. Surprise your partner. The best thing you can do is to keep your partner guessing.And yes, one thing any Girly can wear is confidence! Confidence is the most important to play the game (Not to mention, sexy!)

Hang with your girls and let your partner chill with their friends some weekends. The last thing you wanna hear /say is,

“Hey what did you do today babe?”

“I hung out with you dummy.”

4.)    The Big Kissing Theory

While you may kiss your partner everyday, when was the last time you had a steamy make-out session with them? Kissing releases chemicals that puts us in that sensual heated moment with our partner for more than thirty seconds at a time.

Try different types of kissing like the “music kiss” –play your favorite song and see where the passion takes you. Or try the “counter kiss”-where you slowly come in for the kiss by rubbing noses then brushing lips slowly till they give in. There is actually a site that teaches you to do this!

Photo Credit: Micheal Creagh

5.)    Spend time with Me, Myself and I

This is the most important tip on this list. When you keep your distance from your partner, you shouldn’t fear that they will leave you. Take the time to enjoy being alone. Take the time to finish that book you’ve wanted to read, or write that paper you’ve avoided.

These small tips will help you build new bonds in your relationship and find a new-found passion for one another that reintroduce romance into your relationship.

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September 24, 2011

Dear Girlys,

by T

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Your mind can trap you. Your mind is your best friend and your worst enemy. It can say “Yeah! You can do this, if she can… well, why not you?” or it can say “You have been trying to do that for the longest, just give up already, besides… aren’t you content with what you are doing now?” We tend to give in to the latter, until we have our AHA! moments.

I had an AHA! moment to write this blog post, which would make it my first blog post for this website. I have been writing down and thinking about what my first wowzer blog post would be. I got so caught up in everything, mostly worrying about copyright issues (darn Public Relations class!) and what pictures I could and could not use. By the way, if you do plan to start your own blog PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be aware of copyright infringement, it is real. And people sue for anything these days so be aware. Just Google it!

Anyway, like I was saying, I have been frantic all this week trying to figure out what my first few blog posts would be. So much that I did not write anything! Well that’s not good… the point of the blog is to have content, so like.. people could have something to READ when they come to your blog. Geesh, T. I do talk to myself, it is very therapeutic. ;)

I got so caught up in all that confetti, and tonight.. my AHA! moment came. T, just write. Write till you can’t write no more. My brain was getting frazzled with all this technical shit that it blocked what my heart was trying to tell me. WRITE. Ideas will flow as you type the words on the paper. Hey, I am evening having some ideas now.

So I said that, to say this. Sometimes you just gotta sit down and listen to what your heart is saying. Because when your active and all up in confetti your brain tends to do most of the talking, and that guy is just wayyyyyyy too uptight sometimes. Let it loose kid. WRITE (or insert whatever your trying to do here, such as RUN, SKATE, CHEW GUM, SKIP, etc.)

And as far as my copyright issues, I am just going to take my own damn pictures. For the love of macaroni. –_-

xoxo Girlys,

T

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